Melanie Cohn, LMSW
Psychotherapist
248-821-2957
32841 Middlebelt Rd, Suite 409
Farmington Hills, MI 48334

Confront Affair

Confront Affair - Relationships - Able 2 Relate - rel1So you feel it is time to confront an affair but are not sure how to do it? You have done your homework, gathered your evidence and gotten through the initial shock and dismay of the situation. 

You know it is time for the showdown but you are not sure how to confront the affair. While there is no best way to confront an affair, there are a few things you need to consider. 

1) There is no guarantee as to how your spouse will react to the confrontation. 

Your partner will react in a certain way depending upon how you feel about things. Do you have mixed feelings about facing your spouse with this? Do you have trouble confronting people in general? Are you lacking concrete evidence of the infidelity? All of these issues will impact how your mate responds to you confronting an affair. 

You may come off as mild and meek if you are unsure about confronting an affair. If you face your spouse in this way with no supporting evidence they may respond with a general statement like"everything is fine" or "nothing is wrong". 

If you over-react and confront in a highly hostile and public way there could be serious fallout for both yourself and your mate. One woman stormed into her husband's business, screaming and accusing her husband and his secretaries of sexual misconduct. Her husband's business partners quit the partnership and the husband lost his business and main source of income.

So you can see the consequences of how you confront an affair are significant. Make sure you have evidence to back up your accusations. Use conviction in voice without throwing a screaming temper tantrum in a public place.

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