Melanie Cohn, LMSW
32841 Middlebelt Rd, Suite 409
Farmington Hills, MI 48334

Divorce and Drug Addicted

Divorce and Drug Addicted - Divorce - Able 2 Relate - inf1Divorce and drug addicted spouse: Many partners struggle with the issue of divorce when their spouse is addicted to drugs or alcohol. It is often a painstaking and difficult decision to make.

Deciding whether to stay in an unhealthy and unhappy relationship or leave and begin life anew is never made lightly. For many, it can take years of watching their spouse and their marriage fall apart before they make the decision to end the marriage.

"Divorcing my drug-addicted husband was the most difficult decision I ever had to make. I had to learn how to stop feeling responsible for his behavior, and stop feeling guilty for wanting and planning to leave. 'Alanon' helped me a lot to help me understand how my staying was only enabling his drug-addiction." 

It takes a lot of thought, planning and support for most people who are married and are resolved to divorce their drug addicted spouse.

You have probably been enabling the addictive behavior for years, either knowingly or unknowingly, and that is why it is so difficult for you to leave. You are not responsible for your mates behavior. The only thing you can control in your life is you. Accepting this will make your decision to divorce your drug-addicted partner that much easier.

If you are in a situation with a spouse who abuses substances, or is addicted to prescription drugs or alcohol, make sure you are surrounding yourself among supportive family and friends. And find an addiction support group in your area for extra reinforcement. 

**This article was written by Melanie Cohn LMSW, a psychotherapist who specializes in divorce recovery and other mental health issues. If you live in the metro Detroit area and are looking for counseling click here. 

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